Reply To: The Cult of Lard

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Thanks for the thoughts and comments, all really useful things to be considering, and being honest just expressing some thoughts in the first place has already help me feel a bit better. Its also been nice to revisit the forums, there’s something soothing about their slower pace.

You certainly do need thick skin @warzan and maybe that’s why its affected me more than say other groups or communities I’ve joined or followed and probably because I’ve felt more invested in it. Its not really constrained to one place or platform, but more of a subtle undertone I’ve sensed from across various places, the Lardies certainly encourage a “our rules are best” attitude but name a rules author who doesnt! Thankfully I’d certainly not class it as toxic, perhaps just overbearing?

On the whole the community is fantastic, there’s some amazing work that goes on, particularly the effort people put into preparing games and sharing that experience, but its those small comments and integrations exactly like you point out @rickabod41 that have been making me feel down. Maybe now I’m a bit more self aware of them I need to just filter out those sly comments about throwing other rules away or burning them and just see it as a somewhat childish element of the tribalistic fandom?

I think you’ve possibly hit the nail on the head @dags if its not adding to the hobby then I should probably take that step back, and that doesn’t need to mean I don’t play or enjoy the games.